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For those who have not had the experience, it is impossible to understand the depth of the pain caused by the murdered of a love one. In fact, the human mind only gradually accepts the terrible reality. I could not accept the violent and brutal death of my son. "It felt unreal," I could not beleave that he was not going to be walk through the door again.

Following an amputation, individuals sometimes "feel" their lost limb. In a similar way, grief-stricken families sometimes "seeing" their beloved love one in a crowd or catch themselves making a casual comment to their love one who is not there anymore.

Friends and family often do not know how to react in the face of such suffering. If you know someone who has experienced the death of a child? How, then, can you provide support? What should you know in order to help a friend work through their grief? How can you help the bereaved gradually to regain some since of normalcy? 

Things Not To Do

Friends and family might br distressed by the suffering of their loved one and with good intentions try to limit the duration of the grieing process. "There is no "right" length of time to grieve."  So don’t say it is time to get over it.  Therefore, instead of trying to stem the flow of tears, allow time for the surviving love one to express his or her grief.

Genesis 37:34, 35; Job10:1 

While it might be appropriate for you to help with formalities related to the funeral arrangements, do not assume that you must take complete control of all matters that have to do with the funeral.  Most people think it is nice that people want to help in a real and practical way, but still allowed the surviving love one to retain control of the arrangerments. It mean's a lot to have everything go as they would want. Most fill that it is the last thing they can do to honor their love one.

Of course, some help is no doubt appreciated. I could not think straight. Fortunately, my husband cousin helped. I wish I could have done more becouse some things were not correctly , and now that is one of the things I hate worst of all.

When offering your support, avoid overwhelming the grieving one with advice. Refrain from pressuring the bereaved one to make decisions too quickly. Instead, use discernment and ask yourself, What positive steps can I take to help a friend or relative through the most difficult times of life?

What You Can Do

Give practical help. You could prepare meals or clean befor guest aarive, accommodate visiting relatives, or keep the grieving one company.

You also need to recognize that men and women may deal with grief differently or people in general . What I needed to do to survive may not be the way someone else need to do to survive. But that does not mean one is not in as much pain as the other, it just means we are all different so we grieve  differently.

A Time To Heal

In order to start living life again, the surviving individual need to find the right balance between preserving the memort of their love one and caring for their own present needs. Ecclesiastes 3:3,4 says that there is "a time to weep," But also that there needs to be "a time to heal."  Not to forget, but to be able to live again. Life remains a precious gift from God, not the same life you had,but a precious one that is given to us from God.

True friends will make themselves available and provide ongoing support.

Less Start the New Year Caring  for Our Comminity.

My Goal is to provide a salf place for our local young people to socialize and learn respect for adults , their peers, and themselves. Kids need to be inspired and loved in order to make good decisions as they grow  into adulthood. That is why I want a building for our youth to be able to come to . A boulding that will be perviding social events where there is education and laughter with activities that is fun for our children. A place where they can talk to someone who is knows the greaf of loseing a parant, sibling or some other relative.

We as adults have the responsibly to teach our children right from wrong. If you hang out doing drugs , curseing out other people, lieing trying to get over on the other person, your children will do it as will. That is what you will be teaching your children. Beleve it or not children want to be like you . That want to do as you do. So think about what you do. Say to yourself is this what I should be teaching my children how to live.   I have not always done the right thing as a parent . But I ask God to show me how to be a good mother to my children. I hope you will too.

E. Wanda Pierce

 

FOMCSG Memorial Park...

We have some wonderful volunteers who work very hard. For instance a project we are working on now is a Memorial Park for our murdered loved ones. Holly Underwood and Juanita Allen, are working diligently to find us a peace of property with the Land Bank to place our Momorial Park on .  Our plans include placing a large Marble  Monument with the names of our murdered love one's on it. We hope to have a  mural that a local artist who will paint the face's of our love ones on it. 

 We have our sign and are looking forward to getting our soon to be property cleaned and our sign put up.  Karen Morrow , Janet Myers and I  are working on finding a grant to support this project.  We will also be looking for  bench's ,flower's, tree's, trach cans , walk ways ,exc. to go in our park. You are welcome to help in this endeavor. Just call me at out office or on my cell phone, or you can e-mail me if you prefer. We need your prayers and support.

~ E. Wanda Pierce,

 

 

 

 

 
 
If you have any suggestions or know of some contacts that can help us with our project or if you would like to be apart of this community project, please contact Wanda Pierce at 810.422-5596 or 810-691-7356.

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