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Families Of Murdered Children Support Group

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THE HUMAN EXPERIENCE

OUR CULTURE TENDS TO ENCOURAGE US TO IGNORE DEATH AND PAIN AND PROMOTE THE MYTH THAT WE CAN ALL BE YOUNG, BEAUTIFUL, AND IF WE LIVE RIGHT, BE HAPPY FOREVER.  TO BAD THAT IS NOT TRUE. BUT BEING HUMAN WE FILL PAIN AND KNOW DEATH TO WILL. THAT IS WHY COMING TOGETHER AS A GROUP IS SO INPORTION . WE DON'T HAVE ALL THE ANSURERS NOT BY ANY MEANS BUT IF YOU ARE NOT ALONE IN THIS TIME AND FILL YOU HAVE SOMEONE TO TALK TO IF HELP SO MUCH.  THE SAD PART ABOUT IT IS THAT YOUR FAMILEY DOES NOT UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROW  I AM A MOTHER SO I CAN ONLY SPEAK AS A MOTHER BUT THE LIFE IS HELL AND ENERYONE JUST WANTS YOU TO GET OVER IT . EVEN A MOTHER WHO HAS NOT HAD A MURDERED CHILD CAN NOT UNDERSTAND BECOUSE I DIDN'T. YOU JUST CAN NOT PUT YOUR SELF THRER.YOUR OTHER CHILDREN THINKS YOU HAVE FORGOT ABOUT THEM. BUT THIS IS NOT TRUE .YOU WOULD FILL THE SAME IF IT WAS THEM. IT IS LIKE YOU HAVE LOST A PART OF YOUR BODY LIKE A LEG. YOU HAVE TO TRY TO WALK WITH OUT THAT LEG BUT IN A DIFFERANT WAY. BUT YOU WILL NEVER WALK THE SAME EVER AGAIN. SOME TIME YOU DON'T WANT TO . SOME TIME THE PAIN HELP YOU KNOW YOU ARE  STILL ALIVE.

GRIEF IS A UNIVERSAL HUMAN EXPERIENCE AND ALL OF US ARE FAMILIAR WITH THE FEELING OF PAIN AND SADNESS FOLLOWING A LOSS. WE READ ABOUT TRAGEDIES EVERY DAY IN THE NEWSPAPERS, SEE THEM ON TV, HEAR ABOUT MISFORTUNES FROM FRIENDS OR EXPERIENCE A LOSS OF SOME ONE DEAR TO US THROUGH ILLNESS OR OLD AGE.  MANY READ ABOUT OR HAVE HEARD  EXPERTS ON DEATH AND DYING. THEREFORE WE ARE FAMILIAR WITH THE STAGES OF GRIEF: SHOCK, DENIAL, RAGE, DESPAIR AND FINALLY ACCEPTANCE. FOR SOME GRIEF IS MADE EASIER BY STRONG FAITH IN GOD, BY A SENSE OF THE FIRM BELIEF THAT THEY WILL MEET THEIR LOVED ONES AFTER DEATH.   AT DIFFERENT TIMES I  HAVE COME INTO CONTACT  WITH GRIEVING PEOPLE AT FUNERALS, MEMORIAL SERVICES OR VISITING THE BEREAVED. I OFFERED CARING WORDS, COMPASSION, LOVE, BUT WHEN I LEFT I MOVED ON WITH MY LIFE. ONE DAY I WAS SUDDENLY  THROWN INTO THE WORLD OF SENSELESS VIOLENCE, GRIEF, AND ANGUISH WITH THE SUDDEN NEWS OF THE MURDER OF MY YOUNGEST CHILD, MY SON; MARCUS ANTHONY  WHO WE CALL "MARC".   IT BEGAN WITH UTTER SHOCK AND DISBELIEF AND A SLIM HOPE THAT A MISTAKE HAD BEEN MADE. THE SHOCK AND DISBELIEF STILL CATCH ME AT TIMES EVEN THOUGH THIRTEEN YEARS HAVE PASSED, AND OF COURSE A HORRIBLE MISTAKE WAS MADE. SOME CRUEL AND MISGUIDED MAN ENDED THE LIFE OF A YOUNG MAN WHO LOVED LIFE AND PEOPLE.  HE HAD A RADIANT SUNNY SMILE AND WORKED HARD FOR WHAT HE WANTED.  A PART OF ME WAS KILLED WITH HIM AND I WILL NEVER BE THE SAME AGAIN.

WE ALL ASK "WHY". WE BECOME VULNERABLE AND SUDDENLY OUR WORLD BECOMES AN UNFAIR AND DANGEROUS PLACE.  HOWEVER, IT IS IMPORTANT TO REMEMBER WE ARE ALL INDIVIDUALS, THAT OUR CIRCUMSTANCES DIFFER AS THE LENGTH AND PATTERN OF OUR GRIEF. WHAT WE CAN OFFER THOSE WHO ARE GRIEVING IS AN ACCEPTANCE OF THEIR SPECIAL WAY OF DEALING WITH THEIR ANGUISH AND A WILLINGNESS TO LISTEN.
                                                                                               
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E.WANDA PIERCE
 

       Families of Murdered Children Support Group
 
        *Our Office and Meetings Location* 
Mini Station / Community Center
4535 M.L. King
 Flint, MI 48505
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Non-profit 501c3